Johari Window Questionnaire
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| 1. |
If a friend of mine had a "personality conflict" with a mutual acquaintance of ours with whom it was important for him/her to get along, I would: |
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| _____ A. | Tell my
friend that I felt s/he was partially responsible for any problems with
this other person and try to let him/her know how the person was being affected
by him/her. |
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| _____ B. | Not get involved because I wouldn't be able to continue to get along with both of them once I had entered in any way. | ||
| 2. |
If one of my friends and I had a heated argument in the past and I realized that s/he was ill at ease around me from that time on, I would: |
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| _____ A. | Avoid making things worse by discussing his/her behavior and just let the whole thing drop. | ||
| _____ B. | Bring up his/her behavior and ask him/her how s/he felt the argument had affected our relationship. | ||
| 3. | If a friend began to avoid me and act in an aloof and withdrawn manner, I would: | ||
| _____ A. | Tell him/her about his/her behavior and suggest that s/he tell me what was on his/her mind. | ||
| _____ B. | Follow his/her lead and keep our contact brief and aloof since that seems to be what s/he wants. | ||
| 4. | If two of my friends and I were talking and one of my friends slipped and brought up a personal problem of mine that involved the other friend, of which s/he was not yet aware, I would: | ||
| _____ A. | Change the subject and signal my friend to do the same. | ||
| _____ B. | Fill my uniformed friend in on what the other friend was talking about and suggest that we go into it later. | ||
| 5. | If a friend of mine were to tell me that, in his/her opinion, I was doing things that made me less effective than I might be in social situations, I would: | ||
| _____ A. | Ask him/her to spell out or describe what s/he has observed and suggest changes I might make. | ||
| _____ B. | Resent his/her criticism and let him/her know why I behave the way I do. | ||
| 6. | If one of my friends aspired to an office in our organization for which I felt s/he was unqualified, and if s/he had been tentatively assigned to that position by the leader of our group, I would: | ||
| _____ A. | Not mention my misgivings to either my friend or the leader of our group and let them handle it in their own way. | ||
| _____ B. | Tell my friend and the leader of our group of my misgivings and then leave the final decision up to them. | ||
| 7. | If I felt that one of my friends was being unfair to me and his/her other friends, but none of them had mentioned anything about it, I would: | ||
| _____ A. | Ask several of these people how they perceived the situation to see if they felt s/he was being unfair. | ||
| _____ B. | Not ask the others how they perceived our friend, but wait for them to bring it up with me. | ||
| 8. | If I were preoccupied with some personal matters and a friend told me that I had become irritated with him/her and others and that I was jumping on him/her for unimportant things, I would: | ||
| _____ A. | Tell him/her I was preoccupied and would probably be on edge for a while and would prefer not to be bothered. | ||
| _____ B. | Listen to his/her complaints but not try to explain my actions to him/her. | ||
| 9. | If I had heard some friends discussing an ugly rumor about a friend of mine which I knew could hurt him/her and s/he asked me what I knew about it, if anything, I would: | ||
| _____ A. | Say I didn't know anything about it and tell him/her no one would believe a rumor like that anyway. | ||
| _____ B. | Tell him/her exactly what I had heard, when I had heard it, and from whom I had heard it. | ||
| 10. | If a friend pointed out the fact that I had a personality conflict with another friend with whom it was important for me to get along, I would: | ||
| _____ A. | Consider his/her comments out of line and tell him/her I didn't want to discuss the matter any further. | ||
| _____ B. | Talk about it openly with him/her to find out how my behavior was being affected by this. | ||
| 11. | If my relationship with a friend has been damaged by repeated arguments on an issue of importance to us both, I would: | ||
| _____ A. | Be cautious in my conversations with him/her so the issue would not come up again to worsen our relationship. | ||
| _____ B. | Point to the problems the controversy was causing in our relationship and suggest that we discuss it until we get it resolved. | ||
| 12. | If in a personal discussion with a friend about his/her problems and behavior s/he suddenly suggested we discuss my problems and behavior as well as his/her own, I would: | ||
| _____ A. | Try to keep the discussion away from me by suggesting that other, closer friends often talked to me about such matters. | ||
| _____ B. | Welcome the opportunity to hear what s/he felt about me and encourage his/her comments. | ||
| 13. | If a friend of mine began to tell me about his/her hostile feelings about another friend whom s/he felt was being unkind to others (and I agreed wholeheartedly), I would: | ||
| _____ A. | Listen and also express my own feelings to me/her so s/he would know where I stood. | ||
| _____ B. | Listen, but not express my own negative views and opinion because s/he might repeat what I said to him/her in confidence. | ||
| 14. | If I thought an ugly rumor was being spread about me and suspected that one of my friends had quite likely heard it, I would: | ||
| _____ A. | Avoid mentioning the issue and leave it to him/her to tell me about it if s/he wanted to. | ||
| _____ B. | Risk putting him/her on the spot by asking him/her directly what s/he knew about the whole thing. | ||
| 15. | If I had observed a friend in social situations and thought that s/he was doing a number of things which hurt his/her relationships, I would: | ||
| _____ A. | Risk being seen as a busy body and tell him/her what I had observed and my reactions to it. | ||
| _____ B. | Keep my opinion to myself rather than be seen as interfering in things that are none of my business. | ||
| 16. | If two friends and I were talking and one of them inadvertently mentioned a personal problem which involved me, but of which I knew nothing, I would: | ||
| _____ A. | Press them for information about the problem and their opinions about it. | ||
| _____ B. | Leave it up to my friends to tell me or not tell me, letting them change the subject if they wished. | ||
| 17. | If a friend seemed to be preoccupied and began to jump on me for seemingly unimportant things, and to come irritated with me and others without real cause, I would: | ||
| _____ A. | Treat him/her with kid gloves for awhile on the assumption that s/he was having some temporary personal problems which were none of my business. | ||
| _____ B. | Try to talk to him/her about it and point out to him/her how his/her behavior was affecting people. | ||
| 18. | If I had begun to dislike certain habits of a friend to the point that it was interfering with my enjoying his/her company, I would: | ||
| _____ A. | Say nothing to him/her directly, but let him/her know my feelings by ignoring him/her whenever his/her annoying habits were obvious. | ||
| _____ B. | Get my feelings out in the open and clear the air so that we could continue our friendship comfortably and enjoyably. | ||
| 19. | In discussing social behavior with one of my more sensitive friends, I would: | ||
| _____ A. | Avoid mentioning his/her flaws and weaknesses so as not to hurt his/her feelings. | ||
| _____ B. | Focus on his/her flaws and weaknesses so s/he could improve his/her interpersonal skills. | ||
| 20. | If I knew I might be assigned to an important position in our group and my friends' attitudes toward me had become rather negative, I would: | ||
| _____ A. | Discuss my shortcomings with my friends so I could see where to improve. | ||
| _____ B. | Try to figure out my own shortcomings by myself so I could improve. | ||