Tips for Parents
Students look to parents and family members for support during college, and their involvement in a fraternity or sorority is no exception to this. Below are some suggestions and tips for parents and families of interested students, as well as fraternity and sorority members.
- If you or your student have a question about fraternity or sorority life, go to the source and ask the Fraternity & Sorority Life Staff or chapter leadership. It is important to get the most accurate information, and both the staff and the chapter leaders want to make sure that you have all of the information that you need. Contact Information for the Fraternity & Sorority Life staff, as well as the chapter presidents is available here.
- Get involved! Many fraternities and sororities have activities during family weekend as well as Mom's & Dad's clubs for the parents of their members. Our council leaders do an information session for parents and students at Merit Weekend and SeeBlueU Orientation Sessions, which is a perfect time to ask questions and learn more. Additionally, Panhellenic sponsors an orientation just for parents and families before Primary Recruitment each August.
- Take advantage of the resources provided by Fraternity & Sorority Life, as well as our Campus Partners. Our staff is always available to answer questions and help parents, families, and all students about Fraternity & Sorority Life and the University of Kentucky, but we certainly don't do it alone. Check out more information about our Campus Partners here.
Recruitment and Going Greek
Basic information about recruitment for all of the different organizations can be found here.
- Encourage your student to keep an open mind about fraternity & sorority life. Students may have different stereotypes about certain organizations or fraternities and sororities in general; however, each chapter is different from campus to campus and year to year as members change. It is important for your student to discover if a particular chapter—or fraternity and sorority life in general—is something that they would like to be a part of.
- Students need your support throughout the process of recruitment and New Member Education or Membership Intake. Be supportive and learn as much as you can about the community by asking questions of your student as he or she meets members in fraternities and sororities.
- Have a conversation about the financial obligations of fraternity & sorority life before your student joins an organization. Each organization should provide that information to potential members in advance so that you can consider the financial requirements in making a decision about which organization to join. Dues vary from organization to organization, but in general the average cost is listed below.
- Interfraternity Council Fraternities: $750 first semester, $700 out of house, $3000 in house
- National Pan-Hellenic Council Fraternities and Sororities: $1200 first semester, $75 remaining semesters
- Panhellenic Council Sororities: $1000 first semester, $750 out of house, $3500 in house
- Associate Member Sorority: $300 first semester, $250 remaining semesters
- United Greek Council Organizations: $500 first semester, $250 remaining semesters
- Support your student in making their own decision about which organization to join. Legacy connections, the opinions of friends and family, and external reputation can be important things to consider when students make a choice about which organization to join. However, the most important thing is that the student feels a strong connection and fit with that organization, even if that is different from all of those other factors.
- Think about the following questions before you student joins a fraternity or sorority:
- What values does this organization promote?
- What is expected of chapter members?
- How will membership affect your academics?
- What does the fraternity/sorority do to contribute positively to members’ academic success?
- What leadership opportunities are available to students as both new members and active members?
- Does the chapter perform hands-on community service? If so, how often?
- Does the fraternity or sorority require members to live in the facility (if housing is available)? If so, for how long?
- What type of member is the chapter looking for?
- What is the time commitment?