In a world afflicted with the coronavirus, many of us are working from home, managing our lives under lockdown and worrying about the health and safety of ourselves, our families and our communities. We are all feeling a bit more stressed than we were just a few months ago, and this may be causing our memories to be a bit foggy. I seem to be misplacing my glasses and my phone more often and I can never keep track of which day it is. Stress can do that. It can impair your memory.
Many of us are now working from home, keeping our social distance, worrying about our families (especially our older loved ones) and wondering when this will end. We are wondering when we can return to normal, all while trying to keep our stress and anxiety at a manageable level.
Our older loves ones have the same stressors and anxieties. These anxieties are made worse by the new realities of isolation, inactivity and lack of routine. Isolation and the change in one’s routine can have negative mental and physical consequences.
The working caregiver has two jobs: one that provides a paycheck, and a second job of caring for someone they love. Separately, each can be both demanding and rewarding. Together, these two jobs create a very challenging and difficult situation.
This is not an uncommon plight. More than half of the 40.4 million unpaid caregivers in the United States are employed part-time, full-time or work two paying jobs.
Would you ever apply for a job for which you had no training or skill set? A job with no salary, no insurance plan, no paid time off and no option of retiring? The job ad might look something like this:
“Cheers to a new year and another chance for us to get it right." - Oprah Winfrey
Aside from the cold, I love the beginning of the new year. It provides a fresh start and a chance to look back on both the celebrations and challenges of 2019. It’s a time to reflect on what went well, what didn’t and how can we improve.
We can apply this same reflection to caregiving. How did we do, both for ourselves and our older loved one? Where did we shine and where can we do better?
Reflect back on 2019:
Caring for an older loved one can be stressful and challenging in the best of times. During the holiday season, the stresses and challenges can be overwhelming. With the holidays just around the corner and all the stress that comes with the season, it is important to take a moment and plan for what's ahead.
Caring for an older loved one — by itself — can be a daunting task. When you add in your normal day-to-day responsibilities of home life and a job, the caregiving task can easily become overwhelming. Many caregivers struggle with balancing their own professional and personal responsibilities and caring for an older loved one.
UK Elder Care can help! We are hosting our 4th Annual Senior Caregiving Conference Friday, November 8th at the Hilary J. Boone Center. The conference is made up of two great events:
Caring for an older loved one — by itself — can be a daunting task. When you add in your normal day-to-day responsibilities of home life and a job, the caregiving task can easily become overwhelming. Many caregivers struggle with balancing their own professional and personal responsibilities and caring for an older loved one. UK Elder Care can help! We are hosting our 4th Annual Senior Caregiving Conference Friday, November 8th at the Hilary J. Boone Center.
The decision to move a loved one into a long-term care facility will be one of the hardest decisions you make, especially if you’ve made the promise to keep your loved one at home. It is not uncommon for a loved one say, “Promise me you will never put me away” or “always keep me at home with you.” It is a hard request to deny and oftentimes this request leads to a hasty promise.
As caregivers, we spend a lot of our time ‘thinking of’ and ‘doing for’ our loved one(s). We have little time for ourselves. Shifting the focus back to us can feel selfish—even indulgent. Yet, self-care is critical in being a good caregiver. Taking time for yourself makes you more equipped for the challenges of caregiving, more confident in your abilities and better able to adapt and recover from the setbacks that caregiving creates. Taking time for yourself also helps you manage the stresses of caregiving.