When we cannot forgive it says so much more. It gets perceived as: I’m not a team player. I can’t let things go. I’m not level headed. I am closed, not open minded. I make decisions based on my judgments, or more specifically, my biases. I live in the past and cannot access my creative mind. All of these are implied when we develop the reputation of someone who dwells on the negative, cannot let things go, and cannot forgive.